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by
"A Flash of Light" reader,
Angela Kebbekus |
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Jim and I met on Match.com over 3 years ago. He
was just getting out of a divorce and I don’t think he was looking
for a long term relationship and I am not so sure I was either. He
contacted me first and we seemed to hit it off right away, We chatted
via email for a couple days and then decided to talk on the phone.
Again we chatted for a couple days and then decided to meet for drinks.
I was a little hesitant at first about going out with him simply
because I thought he didn’t make enough money for me. Jim is a tattoo
artist and I work for a mortgage company. But I decided to put my
hesitations aside and go out with him anyway. I can tell you that Jim
had the same hesitations about going out with a girl who was born and
raised in Wisconsin but had been living in Orange County California for
the past 8 years and had turned into a snob. You see I had been looking
at all the wrong things that I wanted in my soul mate. I was looking at
all the material thing and not at the person. So Jim and I met for
drinks and we hit it off right away. We chatted for quite awhile and
from then we dated for about 6 months and things were good but not
great.
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So one day Jim called me up and told me that he
didn’t want to see me anymore because this
was just not what he wanted right now. He also
told me that he was afraid that someday he
would want me back and it would be too late.
Needless to say I was devastated!!! So I picked
up the pieces of my broken heart and tried to
move on. I thought of Jim often but I never
called him or chased him I figured if he wanted
to be without me there was nothing I could do
about it. During the next 3 months things were
hard and Jim actually slipped a couple times
and instead of dialing his mother like he
thought he was he had called me. The first time
he hung up when I answered and the 2nd
time I didn’t even know he had called until I
saw a missed phone call. Then the 3rd
time I called him back and told him that I was
no longer angry and that I wanted to be
friends. I really thought that we could be. So
we started talking again via email and on the
phone and then I decided to ask him to dinner.
So we went out and had a wonderful time we
talked and laughed like we hadn’t done in a
long time. So a month this continued for a
month or so and before I knew it we were back
together. This was not at all what I had
expected and I kept my distance for awhile I
think I was still a little hurt by the breakup
and to be honest I thought I was over him. WELL
I GUESS NOT. Jim and I continued to date for
the next year and on August 28th
2005 I got into a car accident (not a major
one) but enough to shake up Jim. You see he was
planning to propose the following weekend at a
restaurant with all the bells and whistles he
had even called my father, whom he had never
met by the way and has hardly even talked to
and asked him for permission to marry me. So I
came home that evening from work after my
accident and Jim got down on one knee and
proposed to me in my living room. He told me
that he never wanted to spend another day
without me. Well here we are 3 years later
(from out first date) and we are getting
married on April 7, 2007. I can tell you that
Jim is my soul mate without a doubt. He is my
best friend. My life would not be the same
without him in it. He is romantic, caring,
loving. Sensitive and I could go on and on. I
am glad I waited until the right person came
along to marry. I have not had one single doubt
about spending the rest of my life with this
man. He is truly the one and only one for me. I
am so glad that I gave him a chance and looked
beyond the superficial things and looked at the
man. So I have an accidental phone call to
thank for bringing us to this wonderful place
we are at. It hasn’t always been perfect but
it is pretty close.
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