Reduce Your Emotional Energy Waste

By Michelle Bersell, M.A., M.Ed.

Are you like 99% of people who dislike and feel pulled down by feelings such as sadness, worry, frustration and fear? If your answer is yes, then you are not utilizing your emotions to your advantage. Emotions that we coin as negative, such as those mentioned above, are labeled as such due to our misunderstanding of them. It is how you think about your feelings that needs to be changed. Once you do, you will find how these emotions that we try so hard to get rid of are actually guiding us to feel motivated, passion, greater balance and joy in our lives.

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Unfortunately, what we have learned is that our emotions need to be controlled. This sense of control makes us feel good in the short-term, yet in the long-run keeps us stuck and wasting a lot of energy. Let me explain why. Our need to control is based on fear and if we are basing our actions on fear, the fear will always work against us. Furthermore, our fears are tied directly with our ego. Fighting our fears, therefore means that we are buying into the message of our ego, which is meant to lead us astray from our power to change our lives. Because we don’t know what to do with these feelings that bring us down, we work hard to get rid of these feelings.

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Now, I want you to try to suspend all judgment for a minute while I explain to you that you do not want to try to get rid of these feelings that we have defined as negative. Here is why. Our emotions are there as a signal to guide us. When we feel good, we are receiving a signal that is telling us that these circumstances work for us. When we feel bad , we are receiving a signal that those circumstances are not for our highest good.

What is so exciting is that each of our feelings have a message that is guiding us as to how we can create more of the life that we want to live. When we ignore, cover-up or deny that feelings exist, we miss the message.

Ditto if we only hear the ego’s message, which is either going to tell you that you have no hope to change the situation or that the problem has nothing to do with you. Because we miss the message, the emotion will have no other choice but to come back to us at another time and carry with it more pain. The pain has to increase in order to try to get your attention. Therefore, the more pain we are in is because we are too attached to the ego’s message and not our truth.

You will hear the emotional wisdom of each feeling when you feel empowered. Regardless of your circumstances, your feelings are guiding you to know how to handle them in a way that will not only allow you to see the gift but also allow you to get one step closer to creating a life that feels good to you. Whether you are generally a happy person or someone who often feels challenged with how you feel, your emotions are your intuitive guide to support you to take the next step to finding greater joy, love, and empowerment. This begins by knowing we are all meant to know that we deserve a life that is richer and more fulfilling than our limiting mind could ever imagine.

My hope is that you join me in reducing your emotional energy waste by instead creating an emotional advantage in your life. Trust me, you will never regret it! For more information on my work or to take my quiz “Are You Surviving Life or Truly Living?”please visit www.MichelleBersell.com.